Everyone will experience grief at some point during their lifetime. Often times when a loved one dies, a person may feel many emotions such as loneliness, anger, sadness and guilt, especially when the person has died from an unexpected and tragic emergency/accident.

It is important to understand that grieving is “normal” and an important part of continuing on. Allowing yourself to work through the pain or loss will help you continue on with your life and help ensure your physical and emotional well-being. Also recognize that everyone grieves in their own way—there is no right or wrong way. There also is no set time.

The commonly used stages of grief include the following.

• Denial—This is not really happening
• Anger—Why is this happening to me?
• Bargaining—I promise I will be a better person if...
• Depression—I just do not care anymore
• Acceptance—I am ready for the future

Aside from the emotional ups and downs, it is possible to experience physical symptoms such as loss of appetite, sleeplessness and energy loss while going through the mourning process.

Things for you to keep in mind during the grieving period.

• Ask for help and support
• Give yourself time to grieve
• Do not make major decisions
• Accept the things out of your control
• Express your thoughts and feelings

Find the best way for you to grieve. You never really “recover.” However, as time goes on, your anger, confusion or sorrow will lessen and the wonderful memories you have of that person will help carry you through.

Pastoral Care

Often times, it helps to talk with people who know what you are going through. Support groups are an invaluable resource for dealing with a loved one’s death. Supportive friends and family are extremely important. In addition, you may want to seek outside help through a counselor, pastor or support group. UT Medical Center offers pastoral care, which may be of help to you during this time.

Pastoral care offers a chance for one-on-one counseling provided by phone and in person with members of the Pastoral Care Department. Adult Bereavement Support Groups meet for a six-session series of classes at UT Medical Center. Children/Parent Support Groups meet for a four-series course. Participation is free. In addition, the following support groups are available to help you grieve.

• “Looking Ahead” is a bereavement support group for adults.
• “Children Grieve, Too!” is a bereavement support group for children and parents. li>Camp Rainbow is a weekend bereavement camp for children ages six to 12, held annually in September.

For more information, call Pastoral Care Services at 865.305.9704.